Caramel Contemplation

I've experienced this scenario far more times than I dare to admit- a random character I used to know in high school pops into my mind out of nowhere. Being the curious individual that I am, I get onto Google and find out whether this person has a Facebook or Twitter account so I can gauge how well they are doing or how they turned out in life then BAM! The discovery that this here person is a baby daddy! The most unlikely person to ever go around spreading his seed has gone and gotten a chick pregnant! Or worse yet, you get approached by a guy you genuinely click with only to find out that the guy has some baby mama drama going on someplace or other.And that right there is the sad reality most women from my generation have to face- the dreaded Baby Daddy Issue.

If I think back to the people I was in high school with, I can confidently estimate that at least 60% of all the males that come to mind have at least one child. The sad truth of the matter is that a large majority of men under the age of 30 have inevitable done the horizontal dance and just couldn't pull out in time. And sadder still, most of these men aren't even with their baby mamas anymore or had absolutely no intention of putting a ring on it, you know, as a big up for the effort or whatever. But why is this so though? Is it that difficult to keep it in your pants or wrap it up? Is a dude so broke or stingy that he can't even support a chick with some contraception? Or is there more to the story than meets the eye?

According to a recent show hosted by Oprah Winfrey titled "Oprah's Lifeclass", a revelation came about that due to a large number of homes being run by single mothers, a large amount of baby daddies have come about as a result. Why though? Well single mothers tend to baby their sons, spoiling them to the extent of stunting their growth. As a result these men lack the necessary emotional depth to handle responsibility and therefore have no issue with releasing their "load" but refuse to deal with the inevitable consequences. Another huge concern, this one from personal experience, is that society tends to place far too much emphasis on the morality of women as opposed to dealing with the most apparent roleplayers in the game- men. From a mere Google search on "too many baby daddies", thousands of results appeared about how women have too many baby daddies or how children having multiple fathers is automatically the fault of the woman. But seriously though, have we ever looked at the common denominator in this equation? A woman can only get pregnant once within a given cycle of time. A penis can impregnate an infinite number of eggs within the same timeframe. It only takes one swimmer, remember?

For me, the baby daddy issue will always be a bone of contention. The sad reality is that for many women from my generation, a lot of us will end up looking after someone else's child or have the burden of dealing with an ex that we probably won't be able to stand. Now that is something to think about!