On most days I don’t think about the fact that I am one of only a few people in South Africa South Africa
The blatant stares, the constant scrutiny and the attempts from people of the same race trying to undermine my partner by hitting on me. These are just some of the things that I have to deal with when I am with my man. It's as though some people just don't get it, as though their brain just can't comprehend how two people who look so different can be together. So I just wanna put it straight for anyone who may be reading this and have this problem- I am not with a coloured man because I don't want one! And I am sure that anyone else who has been in an interracial relationship can relate! Deal with it! Now, getting back to the subject at hand, for those of you who may be apprehensive about dating a person of a different race, here are a few perks to the experience:- Learning about a new culture or religion
- Being exposed to new ways of thinking
- Becoming stronger in what you believe
- Becoming more understanding of other people
- Possibly learning a new language
- Teaching others to be accepting of alternate lifestyles
Sure, people may judge you at first but this is the exact reason why interracial relationships last so long. The struggles that one goes through makes them a stronger individual and thus builds their relationship. I have had to learn the hard way that the negativity of other people can either break your relationship or make it stronger and much more resilient.
If I have passed on any message today, I hope that it is that people should be tolerant of others and their choices in life. Sure, we all look different, but at the core of our existence are we not all the same?
This leaves me with just one more question in mind to pose to you- As South Africans, have we really become colour blind or are we just more sensitive to the feelings of others?
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